What is Attachment-Based Therapy and How It Can Help

Attachment-based therapy is grounded in the idea that our earliest relationships shape how we connect with others throughout life. The way we learned (or didn’t learn) to seek comfort, express our needs, and trust others in childhood carries forward into adulthood, influencing our relationships, self-worth, and ability to regulate emotions.

This type of therapy provides a space to explore those patterns, particularly where they may be causing pain or holding you back. It’s not about blaming the past but about understanding how those experiences wired your nervous system and shaped your expectations of relationships. 

Through a safe, attuned therapeutic relationship, you can begin to recognize old survival strategies that may no longer serve you—like avoiding closeness, fearing rejection, or struggling with emotional regulation—and start building new ways of relating.

In therapy, we might:

• Identify and explore relationship patterns—how you approach intimacy, conflict, and trust.
• Work through past wounds that may still be influencing your present, often on a subconscious level.
• Use the therapeutic relationship as a mirror, helping you experience new ways of being seen, understood, and supported.
• Develop emotional regulation skills to increase resilience, confidence, and the ability to tolerate discomfort.
• Integrate attachment-focused EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) to help process past relational trauma in a way that allows for healing, rather than continuing to react from a place of pain.

Ultimately, attachment-based therapy helps you feel more secure within yourself and your relationships. It offers the opportunity to rewrite the internalized narratives that keep you stuck—shifting from self-doubt and disconnection toward trust, emotional freedom, and deeper, more fulfilling connections.